Everyone wants a smooth wedding day. You want flowers to be delivered on time and the photos to be picture perfect. You hope the food will be better than anything Gordon Ramsey could have cooked himself. As a wedding photographer, I have seen the smooth, the rough, and the downright bumpy wedding days. Well, I am here for you. Here are my top 5 tips for a smooth wedding day.
1. Find a planner that can take care of the details for you.
On your big day, the last thing you should be worried about is the small details. Details of when the food is coming, or where the photos are being taken, the list goes on. I’m happy to tell you, that is not the job of the couple. The couple’s only job on the day is to experience and enjoy every moment they can. Having a planner take care of the details lets the couple be fully present. Find a planner that can be very detailed, someone you trust, and partner with vendors that are detailed oriented. Getting someone to take care of the details is the first step for a smooth wedding day.
2. Get a good time line.
Personally, I work really hard on creating a rough draft of a timeline for my couples. Then I work with their planner to create a more in depth schedule of events. This usually takes shape around 2 weeks prior to the wedding. A time line gives structure and routine to the day. Everyone knows exactly where they are supposed to be and at what time; which is so important. Without a good schedule on a busy wedding day, it is easy for people to miss out on where they need to be. Your uncle Tom could think he has time to grab a snack when really he is suppose to be having his picture taken. Just like when you were in grade school, the schedule is there to help guide you through your day to make it smooth and enjoyable.
3. Carve out moments in your time line to just be with your partner alone.
A little secret that I like to keep for my couples is that when I create my timelines, I make sure to carve out little moments for them. Ask anyone who has had a wedding and they’ll say the day becomes a blur. That’s why you have videos and photos of the day so you can remember it. But as much as you can, try to make sure that you take little moments to breathe and be present. Be present with your partner, family, friends and even yourself! There is a lot happening on that day, and it’s easy to get wrapped up in what is going on around you. Make sure to reconnect and take that quiet time when you need it.
4. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
On a wedding day there are so many things that can go wrong. Think about planning a birthday party and multiply that by ten, add keeping track of everything on the day, then mix it with the range of emotions that happen on a wedding day. I always tell my couples don’t sweat the little things because you won’t remember them. If your dress gets dirty or if some flowers aren’t delivered, none of that will matter in a a year or even a week. While it’s a very special day, it is just one, single day in the many that you will share with your partner. No day is perfect, but that’s what makes it memorable. There’s a great quote from the book Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff that says “..when you let go of your expectations, when you accept life as it is, you’re free. To hold on is to be serious and uptight. To let go is to lighten up.” On your wedding day, let go of your expectations and accept the amazing day you are about to have!
5. Have fun, worry about each other and not everyone else.
Remember that this day is not for the people attending your wedding. Of course you want everyone to have fun, but ultimately, every decision should not be made for someone else’s benefit. Don’t think about other’s opinions, just prioritize what is important to you and your partner. If having an amazing videographer is more important to you than having exotic flower arrangements, be confident in that. Figure out your priorities and stick to them, don’t make choices to please other people.
Those are my top 5 tips for a smooth wedding day. Even if you follow these will some things go awry? Of course! Will you have an amazing time anyway? Absolutely. Have fun, be present and know that your day is unique because it is about your love story.
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